Matt and I always thought that being married wouldn't really change much for us. In the past four years, we had lived together, paid most of all our bills (now we pay all... shucks), moved to another state, bought a home, etc., etc., etc. So for us, we viewed it as paperwork and making it official - as pitiful as that sounds.
Well its been two months since the wedding and I feel like a completely different person. I feel like I have learned more in the past 60 days than I did years prior. Some of it has to do with being married, some of it has to do with being an adult, and others, I think people just realize somewhere along the way.
What I've Learned:
1. Its Matt and I against the world -
Well not really. But hypothetically. My brother in law once told me: "There are two people who matter in this world. Its you and Matt. When you have kids, they will be a part of that, too. Disregard everyone else who causes drama." I was about 500 glasses of wine in at the time he said this, but I remembered everything he said. I believe I remembered this because he made a good point. There is no need for drama or negativity. As adults, we must make the decision who keep around in our lives. Get rid of the negative people -- Keep the positive ones. True friends will stick around and be with you throughout every important moment of your life. True friends will not bring uncessary drama around and one true friend is better than 100 fake ones.
Five years ago-- hell, five months ago -- I was more concerned on having several friends, being a apart of a group, being included, having a social life, etc. What I've come to learn is ten years from now its not going to matter what bar I went to with so and so -- or how many friends attended my birthday party -- Everyone and everything that will matter will be the ones laying in bed with me on Saturday mornings -- my husband and my kids. Family is forever. And Matt is my family.
2. Family is Forever -
I've come to learn that family will stick with you through everything. At times -- several times, I could have strangled my sister in the midst of fights. We've fought back and forth for years. We've been jealous. We've been resentful. We've been mean. And relentless. But when everything goes bad... I know I can call my big sister for help. No one will ever be able to take her place and forty years from now, she will be the one who is still around.
3. Money isn't Everything -
Self admittedly, I love to look at other people's picture on facebook. Several times, I'll think to myself I wish I had that house, I wish I had that car, I wish I had her clothes, etc. I've come to learn that money isn't everything. Matt and I have something far more important. We have love. We have health. We have a wonderful family. And we have our entire lives to build a million memories. I find myself day dreaming most often about our future. How many kids we'll have... What their names will be... What they'll be like... Where we'll live... etc.
When we first started dating, we'd day dream about being well off, having nice things, making lots of money, etc. And not so long ago, I realized that our life is so great (income and all) and I am so incredibly thankful for that. We may not have a huge house, designer clothes, or super nice things, but we have each other and that makes us the richest people alive. My, how our priorities have changed!
4. God is Everything -
God is Great. God is Everything. Enough said.
I am lucky enough to have been raised in a religious family who went to church every Sunday and Wednesday night. Sadly, in my teenage years and young adult years, I stopped attending church on a regular basis. Though I held strong to my faith and my religion (praying almost every night and being a self admitted Christian), I never acted on my faith, attended church, or tithed. I saw the light again on Good Friday while watching Passion of the Christ. That movie is so moving and life changing. Despite the critics who said it was poorly made, it shows something very similar to what He went through. Sacrifice. It made me remember that there is something out there so much more than what we focus on a daily basis. Easter isn't about eggs. Christmas isn't about presents.
Its so much more.
And I was reminded of that while crying and watching the scene of Jesus getting nailed to the cross. If you haven't watched it, I highly recommend it. Religious or not.
And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them,
for they know not what they do...."
Luke 23:34
I am choosing to end this blog, with a great song from the good ol' days. Listening to it now, I understand it a lot more. I encourage everyone to listen to it and let things set in.... Life is here. Life now.
Keep the positives. Throw away the negatives. Love your family. Be thankful and, most importantly, love God.
PS: Dennis, our wedding photographer, sent the disc of images to us today which means I will be blogging soon about our big day!!!! YAY!
P.S.S: My darling husband has requested that I only blog one night a week (as I've come quite obsessed).... So, every Thursday night new ones will be posted (for future reference).
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